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She gave me her number but didn't text back

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Girls often give a number because it's easier than saying no to your face, and sometimes it's just a lost text. Send one more simple message that reminds her who you are, and if that goes unanswered, she gave you the number to end the moment, not to start something.

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You met her in person. It felt good. She typed her number into your phone herself. You texted that night, or the next day, and... nothing.

Why this happens

Please don't take this the wrong way, but sometimes a number is the easiest way for a girl to end a conversation. Saying "no thanks" to a guy's face in a bar feels risky and awkward. Handing over a number and never replying is quiet. I've done it, and so have most of my friends.

But there are other reasons, and they're real:

She doesn't know who you are. Your text said "hey it's me" and she met four people that night.
She typed it wrong. It happens more than you'd think, especially at a bar.
She saw it, meant to reply, and it sank. First texts from someone new are easy to lose.

What reddit usually says vs what works

Most threads go straight to "she gave you a fake-ish yes, move on." Sometimes that's right. But the one thing worth fixing before you give up: did your first text say who you are and where you met? If not, send one more that does.

Exact texts

One more try, a day or two after the first:

Texts you can send

Remind her who you arehey its sam from the bar on friday, the one who lost at darts. still owe you that rematch

If you talked about a planhey its sam from the coffee line. still up for that pastry tour saturday?

Don't send:

"did you give me the wrong number?"
"guess you didn't want to talk lol"
A second follow-up after the second one.

When to let it go

Two texts, clear about who you are, no answer: that's the answer. It was still a win that you asked. Most guys don't. Next time, lock in a plan while you're still talking to her, so the number is for logistics, not for starting from zero. More on that in how to ask for her number.

Questions guys ask

Why would a girl give her number and not text back?

Giving a number can be an easier way to end the conversation than saying no. Sometimes she did not recognize who texted or the number was wrong.

Should I text her again if she didn\'t reply?

Once, a day or two later, with your name and where you met. If that gets no answer, let it go.

More guides

What to text a girl after getting her numberYou got the number. The first text, when to send it, and how to get to a date.

How to ask for her number (without it being weird)When to ask, exact words to say, and how to take a no like a grown man.

How to get a girl's number at a bar (from a girl who works at one)The approach, the first thing to say, the signs to stay, and the ask. From behind the bar.

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