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She said she's bad at texting

Val's straight answer

"I'm bad at texting" is true more often than guys think, and the test is simple: is she good at plans? If she says yes to meeting and shows up, text less and plan more, and if she's bad at texting and at plans too, that's not a texting problem.

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"sorry im so bad at texting lol." Two days late, again. You're trying to decide if that's a personality trait or a polite way to keep you at arm's length.

The honest truth from someone who is bad at texting

I'm one of these. I will read your text, write a reply in my head, and forget I never sent it. It's not about you. It's about my phone being a place I get yelled at by work, group chats, and my mom.

But I also know girls who say it as a cover, because "I'm not that into you" is harder to type.

Here's how you tell. Girls who are truly bad at texting are usually good in person and fine with plans. They answer "drinks friday?" with "yes!!" even if they leave your meme unanswered for three days. Girls using it as an excuse dodge plans too.

What reddit says vs what actually works

What you'll read: "nobody is too busy to text, she's just not interested." What's true: plenty of people hate texting. The sentence is unfair to them.
What you'll read: "match her energy, text her as little as she texts you." What actually works: text less, yes, but make each text count. Fewer texts, more plans.

How to adjust

Stop trying to keep a daily conversation alive. Treat texting as logistics plus the occasional thing that made you think of her.

Texts you can send

Make it a plan, not a chatall good, i'll keep it simple. drinks friday at 8?

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Avoid:

"you're not THAT bad at texting, you just don't text me lol"
Sending three messages in a row to "get a conversation going."
Long texts. She'll feel the weight and put it off.

When it's not a texting problem

If she also dodges plans, cancels, and never suggests anything herself, it's not about texting. Believe the pattern over the excuse.

Questions guys ask

Is "I\'m bad at texting" an excuse?

Sometimes, but often it is true. If she still says yes to plans and shows up, it is real. If she dodges plans too, it is an excuse.

How do you text a girl who is bad at texting?

Text less and plan more. Short messages, specific invites, no pressure to keep a conversation going every day.

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