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Girl said she's busy this week
Val's straight answer
"I'm busy this week" is a yes if she offers another time and a soft no if she doesn't. Reply with one relaxed text that leaves the next move to her, then go quiet and see if she picks it up.
You finally asked. She said: "this week is crazy for me." Your brain went straight to "she's letting me down easy."
Here's the one thing to look at. Did she offer another time?
What she means
"busy this week, but next week i'm free" is a yes. I'm telling you I want to go and giving you the date.
"aw this week's crazy" with nothing after it is me hoping you'll get the hint without me having to say it. Not always, but often enough that you should treat it that way.
The in-between, "this week's crazy, maybe after?", is a maybe that leans on you not to push.
Reddit says, reality says
A lot of guys online will tell you to ask again in three days, then again next week, "persistence pays off." Others say one busy equals dead, don't text again.
Asking again and again turns a gentle no into an awkward one. She has to keep making excuses, and she'll start resenting the guy who makes her do it. But dropping it completely after one busy is also too much, because women really do have weeks that fall apart.
The middle move: one relaxed reply that hands the next step to her. If she wants to see you, she'll use it.
Exact replies
Texts you can send
perfect, next tuesday then. 7 at the wine bar on main?
all good. let me know when things calm down, id like to take you out
respect the hustle. offer stands when you surface
Not these:
- "ok what about next week then?" right after she said busy, with no breathing room.
- "you're always busy lol"
- "no worries!!" plus a sad emoji. You're not hurt, you're fine.
Letting it go
If she doesn't come back with a time within a week or so, she's answered. Don't send "so are we still doing this?" Just live your week. If she reaches out later, great, and if she doesn't, it was never really there.
For the broader version of "she's always busy," see what to say when she says she's busy.
Questions guys ask
What does it mean when a girl says she\'s busy this week?
If she suggests another time, she is interested. If she does not, it is often a soft no. One relaxed reply that leaves the door open lets her show you which.
Should I ask her out again after she said she was busy?
Not right away. Let her offer a time. If she does not within about a week, take that as your answer.
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