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The conversation on Hinge is dry. Now what?
You matched. You said something. She said "haha yeah." You asked how her weekend was. She said "good, you?" And now it's a job interview nobody wants to finish.
It's usually not her
Most dry chats die on the second text, not the first. Your questions are fine, they're just closed. "How was your weekend" has one answer, and she gave it. Then it's your turn again, and again, and you're both tired.
What a dry chat needs
- Something to answer. A take, a choice, a little story. Not another "how's your week."
- Something about you. If you only ask, she knows nothing and has nothing to react to.
- A direction. The point of the app chat is a date, not a pen pal.
Don't do these
- Don't send "wyd." It gives her nothing.
- Don't ask three questions in one text.
- Don't keep it going for two weeks. Long app chats fade.
What to send
Go back to her profile. Pick one specific thing and give her an opinion to push back on, or a choice to make. If you've already had a few back and forths, skip ahead and ask her out.
Texts you can send
ok important question. your profile says best tacos in town. which place, i need names
i just burned toast in a way i didnt think was possible. how is your sunday going
you said you hate brunch. bold. defend yourself
this is more fun in person. coffee thursday after work?
A woman's read
When a guy only asks questions, it feels like a form I'm filling out. When he says something about himself or gives me an opinion to argue with, I actually want to answer. And honestly, if we've been going back and forth for a few days, I'm waiting for him to just ask. Texting is a bad way to get to know someone. A drink is better.
The move
Send one text built on something from her profile, with an opinion or a choice in it. If the chat has had a few good exchanges, ask her for coffee with a day.
If she's still one word after that
Some matches are just not that into it, and that's fine. You can't carry a chat alone. Give it one good text, then move your energy to the matches who answer with questions. More openers that get answered in dating app opening lines.
Questions guys ask
Why are my Hinge conversations so dry?
Usually closed questions and no direction. Give her something to answer and move toward a plan.
How do you revive a dry conversation on Hinge?
Go back to her profile, pick one specific thing, and send an opinion or a choice. Or just ask her out.
How long should you talk on Hinge before asking her out?
A handful of good exchanges. Long app chats tend to fade.
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